Or actually demonstrating it.

[which she tries by leaning back so it's easier for you to hug and using the arm she already had around you to rub your arm in what she hopes is comforting]

But I thought about it a lot, not like in a manipulative jerk way, but in a way that maybe I wasn't great at noticing it since you don't like punching me or ditching me when I screw up. Those times it's hard to miss...